If you’ve read Susan Cain’s book Quiet and resonated with what she was saying…you might be an introvert. And, hopefully, if you read that book you know that that’s not a bad thing.
- Introverts often excel at deep thinking and reflection, which can lead to unique insights and creative solutions.
- Rather than seeking a wide circle of acquaintances, introverts tend to prioritize deep, meaningful relationships.
- Introverts are comfortable being alone, which can be a superpower in a world that often demands constant socializing.
However, if you’re beginning to think about how you’re going to spend your time in retirement and have never considered yourself a “joiner” it might be time to use those creative powers to start brainstorming how you’re going to spend your time.
This is especially true if work has been a big part of your social life. Even if you’ve been quietly working away in your office, you’ve likely had other people around or meetings that you’ve had to attend. And while you might be counting the days to when you can become the neighborhood hermit, I caution you against becoming completely secluded…which can be a slippery slope.
According to Adam Greenberg, LCSW staying social – even on a smaller scale – is important for your wellbeing. Here are a few reasons why:
- Social interactions play a crucial role in maintaining mental health. For introverts, who might be more prone to internalizing emotions, socializing can help alleviate feelings of loneliness and depression.
- Having a network of supportive relationships is essential for managing stress and navigating life’s challenges. For introverts, developing and maintaining these connections can be particularly beneficial.
- Social interactions can facilitate personal growth by exposing introverts to new ideas, perspectives, and experiences.
Preparing for Retirement as an Introvert
Just as you wouldn’t expect to wake up one morning and have all the money you need for retirement without putting in any effort in saving it, you can’t start your first day of retirement expecting that you’ll immediately know how to spend your time if you haven’t planned for it.
Think about taking yourself on as your own research project in the years before you stop working. If you’re open to trying something new, look for low-pressure ways to explore interests. Many community centers and libraries offer free or inexpensive classes, and you can always attend a single session to see if it’s a good fit. Expect that you’ll like some activities and not like others and, if you’re not someone who is a natural joiner, try to find a balance of solo and group activities.
Here are some suggestions:
Set Personal Goals
Retirement is a great time to work on goals that bring personal satisfaction. Whether it’s reading 100 books, learning a new language, or completing a DIY home project, setting goals can give your days structure and a sense of accomplishment.
Rediscover Old Passions
Think back to hobbies or interests you enjoyed in the past but may have let slide during your working years. Whether it’s painting, woodworking, gardening, or writing, retirement is your chance to dive back in. These solo pursuits can be deeply fulfilling and don’t require a crowd.
Volunteer on Your Terms
If you’re not a fan of large social gatherings but still want to make a difference, look for volunteer opportunities that align with your comfort level. For instance, you might enjoy tutoring a student one-on-one, fostering animals, or organizing donations at a local food bank.
Master the Art of Staying Connected
While you may not be a natural joiner, staying connected with family and close friends is essential. Schedule regular phone calls, video chats, or one-on-one visits to maintain meaningful relationships without the pressure of group settings.
I know that for some people the idea of walking into a roomful of strangers makes you groan inwardly (or out loud) and the idea of having more time to yourself in retirement is extremely appealing. However, you’ve likely had some sort of social balance most of your life – and that’s not something you want to give up when you retire.
Start experimenting with the things that bring you joy and that will give you some structure in retirement. Don’t wait until you’re six months in and realize you haven’t seen anyone but the cashier at the grocery store in days. Remember that when you join a group, you might meet others who give you the meaningful connections you thrive on and that now, in retirement, what you do is completely within your control.
